Wednesday, June 13, 2012

Procrastination as Punishment

So, we'll just jump in -- what if your fear isn’t completely about failure or rejection? 
What if this “holding back” thing is only partially about recoiling from having to feel bad/unwanted/stupid/insane?
What if you are procrastinating because you don’t believe you actually deserve the incredibleness you’re on the precipice of experiencing? 
What if your procrastination pause is a form of systematic self-induced punishment -- a wildly creative sabotage you’ve designed especially to keep the beautiful-fantastic-happy AWAY?

What if your procrastination is protecting you from both ick AND bliss?
Withhold the good stuff from yourself? Why... would you do that
What if your fear is about not quite believing you are worthy of a better life, of having heaven instead of hell, of feeling good, REALLY good, no explanations nor apology necessary?
What if your fear is about being lauded, appreciated, acknowledged, respected, recognized, seen, heard? 
Holy cow what would THAT be like?!
I mean, what the hell would you do with that it would feel so foreign you’re so not used to it and what if everyone expects big everythings from you now and what if you have to constantly live up to that and sitting with the discomfort of praise is SO “blank” and what will others think of you past present and future and how would you explain this newfound whatever to your parents/significant other/church/the government/the cats?
Stop punishing yourself.  
What if picking up that pen, the phone, the paintbrush, or hitting “send” means your whole life could change? It could. It will. It is.

What if this next thing you’re about to do makes the dream that much closer to coming true? It could. It will. It is.

Isn't it fabulous we always have this choice?

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Simon and Garfunkel -- (a very specific verse of) Bridge Over Troubled Water - Live
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  1. Amazing.....and how ironic, that I just forwarded you a quote as I have picked you for my Table of ARE so amazing! Just DO IT!

  2. Trista,

    You nailed it in your blog post about procrastination. I've suffered with migraines for so many years, (this summer was hard-every day for 2 months, then on IVs for 3 days. But it worked and the siege is lifting.)

    I started to give in to the feeling that I'll never have that wonderful out-of-the-ballpark response from my audiences and clients again because I was doubting that I'd recover—again. But I always do and, after a good vacation out in nature, I always feel I can do anything! I'm working down to the root of why I get migraines to begin with and they are leading me straight to your point of what expectations will be out there and how will I respond to the accolades, etc.

    I have opened my arms wide and am ready for it. Bring it on you ol' Universe you!

    Thanks for sharing your journal entry too. I bought a new one and will start writing for myself, not just others again immediately!

    Sending love & peace